Date Buddy — Intentional Dating Made Easy

"Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life."

— Proverbs 4:23

My Foundation

Fill this out once. Update it only as you grow. These answers are your anchor.

My Core Values

What values must be present in a partner?

My attachment style:

Secure

Anxious

Avoidant

Fearful-Avoidant

Faith Reflection

How is God calling you to grow before receiving a partner?

Standards, Preferences & Dealbreakers

My Standards — things I require:

My Preferences — nice to have, negotiable:

My Dealbreakers — non-negotiable:

Healed Me vs. Unhealed Me

When healed, I am...

When unhealed, I tend to...

"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."

— Psalm 37:4

My Prototype

Define your ideal partner before you meet them.

The 10 Things I'm Looking For

Desirability — How I Show Up

Rate yourself (1 = needs work, 10 = thriving):

Physical Appearance5

Progress Affirmation:

Fitness & Hygiene5

Progress Affirmation:

Mental Health5

Progress Affirmation:

Personality5

Progress Affirmation:

Relational Readiness5

Progress Affirmation:

How I Expect My Partner to Show Up

I expect my future partner to show up in each pillar:

Physical Appearance

Better

The Same

Worse

Fitness & Hygiene

Better

The Same

Worse

Mental Health

Better

The Same

Worse

Personality

Better

The Same

Worse

Relational Readiness

Better

The Same

Worse

Prayer Focus

Write a short prayer for your future partner today.

My People

Tap a person to open their profile.

Loading your people...

"Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals." Eliminate based on facts, not just desire.

— 1 Corinthians 15:33

Basic Info

Age

Location / City

Height

Ethnicity

Previously Married?

Kids?

Faith / Church

Job / Career

Attraction Check

Physical attraction:

★★★★★

Personality / energy:

★★★★★

Starter Questions

Views on gender roles?

Role of faith in their life?

Relationship goals — marriage?

Physical intimacy timeline?

What are they working on about themselves?

Running Assessment

Pros so far:

Cons / concerns so far:

Fruit of the Spirit? (Gal. 5:22-23)

Love

Joy

Peace

Patience

Kindness

Goodness

Faithfulness

Gentleness

Self-control

Discernment Check

Do you feel peace or pressure when you think about this person?

Peace

Pressure

Still unsure

Do you feel comfortable enough to schedule a date with this person?

Yes — I'm ready for a date!

Not yet — still vetting

No — releasing this person

Keep Digging — Round 2 Questions

You're being wise. Here are deeper questions to help you get the clarity you need.

How do they handle conflict?

Family relationship?

Financial transparency?

Love language?

Daily faith / prayer life?

After these questions, what's your gut saying?

Discernment Prayer

"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens."

— Ecclesiastes 3:1

Pick a Date Idea

Tap one or more ideas that feel like a good fit!

Have your own idea?

Date Planning Notes

Proposed date & time:

Location / Venue ideas:

Who is asking / planning?

I'm asking them

They're asking me

Still figuring it out

Other planning notes:

Is the date officially on the calendar?

Once confirmed with the other person, mark it as scheduled to unlock your Date Log!

Part 1 — Before the Date

"Plans succeed through good counsel."

— Proverbs 20:18

My emotional state going in:

Excited

Nervous

Curious

Guarded

Peaceful

Hopeful

3 things I want to find out:

Am I showing up as my healed self? What might get in the way?

Pre-Date Prayer

Ask God for clarity, an open heart, and discernment.

Part 2 — Date Recap

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control."

— Galatians 5:22-23

Date Details

Date

Location / Activity

Who planned it?

Who paid?

What did you talk about? Standout moments?

Green Flags

Good listener

Asked about me

Mentioned faith naturally

Respectful

Generous

Emotionally mature

Red Flags

Only talked about self

Disrespectful

Inconsistent answers

Overly physical too soon

Evasive

Overall Vibe

How did the date feel?

Effortless

Interesting

Awkward at times

One-sided

Great chemistry

Something felt off

Did I show up as my healed self?

Faith Check

Did this date reflect your values? Was God honored in how you engaged?

"The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out."

— Proverbs 18:15

3 Self-Check Questions

Did I rush connection or resist it?

Did I show up as my authentic self?

Did I have fun on this date?

Yes, absolutely!

It was okay

Not really

Updated Assessment

Updated attraction — Physical:

★★★★★

Updated attraction — Personality:

★★★★★

Pros — updated:

Cons — updated:

My Decision

What's your decision?

Continue — I want to learn more

Release — not the right fit

Still discerning

Notes to self:

Closing Prayer

Thank God for the experience. Release the outcome.

Ready to officially release?

Take a moment with your closing prayer above first. When you're ready, confirm below. You can always unarchive from My People if you change your mind.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor."

— Ecclesiastes 4:9

What's the Next Date Idea?

Tap any that feel right for your next outing!

Or write your own: